it’s time to begin
your journey
it’s time to begin
your journey
Welcome to SEARCH FIND BECOME
Where we teach Adoptees and Birth Parents how to prepare and search for each other to help them find what was lost and to help heal.

SEARCH

FIND

BECOME
Pierce the veil, discover the beginnings of your story, and begin to build relationships. Become your whole story!

The SEARCH FIND BECOME Course
The SEARCH FIND BECOME Course
Featured Content
The Magic of Cousins
Giving us a greater sense of connection and giving us a concrete way to find our biological relatives is the magic we find in cousins.
...Getting Started with DNA Testing
If you are searching, and have not yet done DNA testing, what are you waiting for? Next to your adoption records, it’s the most powerful sear...
Adoption Fog
Adoption fog is a huge thing for adoptees. If you are in it you may have no idea what it is, if you are out of it, you are discovering the depth o...
Adoption Trigger: I’m Captain Marvel
It’s amazing what can trigger adoptees and birth parents. My latest huge adoption trigger happened while watching the movie Captain Marvel.
...Is It Possible To Have a Good Adoption?
Is it possible to have a good adoption? There are outspoken people on both sides: there are adoptees, birth parents, and HAPs (hopeful adoptive par...
Adopted: What’s That Like?
What’s it like being adopted? Adoption is enormously complex with so many factors that contribute to how it affects people. This is some of...
DNA: The Great Equalizer
DNA doesn’t lie. People lie, people hide secrets, but DNA doesn’t lie. It is the great equalizer. If you are searching for biologica...
Not Knowing or Missing Out: Which is Worse?
Which is worse for adoptees and birth parents, not knowing or missing out? The answer to this will be individual and personal, here’s mine.
Rights and Responsibilities within the Adoption Circle
We fully support and advocate for these rights and responsibilities as envisioned by Betty Jean Lifton; many of them inform the structure of our co...